The difference

He went to places he never dreamt of going, he reached heights which he never knew exist, he had things which he never imagined he could have. It all came his way by making only one change in his life and It was the change that took quarter a century of his life to come by, it was a change that made him sweat blood, it was change the that made him cry in pain, it was the change that eventually became his high and it was the change that not only in the end but also in the beginning and middle, worth it. It was discipline that made all the difference.

My tutor, Cricket , and me.

Back in the day, when I was in 5th standard and I used to have a home tutor who was very strict and was the only villain in my life to say the least. His timing was the most annoying thing about him, he used to come to my home at four o clock in the evening, when every friend of mine were busy playing cricket I used to attend my home tuition when they were counting balls and runs I was counting multiplication table when they were hitting fours and sixes I was being hit for silly mistakes and to make things worse whenever I used to plan my cricket on Sundays he used to arrive even on sundays, now I think you can feel pity for me and understand the gravity of the situation.

Everything was fine despite all the unjust that was being laid on me I was doing okay, until one fine day my uncle gifted me a new MRF cricket Bat, now I just couldn’t resist the temptation to show off my new bat which looked ditto like Sachin’s bat to me. So next day I eloped with my bat underestimating the ramifications of my adventure. When I got back home after playing,my mom was curious and furious at the same time she asked me when did you become this brave don’t you know your tutor? he had left looking very annoyed she said and that was it, now my panic button got turned on and I was out my fantasy land then and there with my bat still resting over my soilder.

somehow I convinced my self that if I will complete all my home works assigned by him he would forgive me for my mischief, so I sat down that evening worked on my homwework with full dedication and concentration and completed it and I even solved some maths exercise in advance to impress him.

Next day It was 3:45 pm in the clock and I was getting ready nervously for my teacher to arrive and went to my book shelf to take out my home work notebook but wait… it was no where in the entire shelf to be found and now the panic monster started to grow bigger and bigger with every passing second, I am running all over my home asking everyone about the notebook covered with brown cover which has name plate with Sachin’s photo on it but no one knew about it and then suddenly I heard a knock on the door.

I told my self that I would be honest and would take whatever comes my way, I entered my room, my tutor was sitting on the chair and I wished him good evening and sat on the bed with crossed legs, I was assuming first he will ask me about where I had been yesterday but to my surprise he straight away asked me to show my homework now I was literally crying and told him that sir I did finish my homework but couldn’t find my notebook, now at that very moment his facial muscles and eyes got together and told me a story that is still fresh in my conscience they told me that they trust me, they told me that I might not be good at studies but I would not lie to him, he then ran his hands over my head and told me to once again go and search for it, so I wiped off my tears and went to another room where my book shelf was and stared to search for it again but I couldn’t find it then I don’t know why but I closed my eyes and said God please help me then something fell on my lap from the top of my book shelf and yes it was my homework​ notebook.

I showed him my homework with tears in my eyes. Back then I didn’t realize what those tears were for but now I know it was because just in the span five minutes I had witnessed magic of two of the most powerful things in the world,that is trust and faith.

Indian Girl conundrum.

He always had the dream of becoming the bread earner of his family, marry a beautiful Indian girl, who would take care of him and his family, his dream did come true and society looked at him as “success”. She dreamt of travelling the world, studying architecture, her dream never came true, she married him and society called her parents, a “success”

He became the man he always wanted to be and she became the women she never wanted to be.

Diary of introspection.

Like always I have given myself another opportunity to make some move in my life, I have again made some promises to myself, I have again shown trust on to myself. I hope this time I don’t disappoint myself because as it looks, this is the last opportunity I have got in order to create a dignified life.

So how do I make some move? Answer to that is fairly simple, get going, don’t look back, don’t look left, don’t look right, just look ahead and run, run for your life because this time if you don’t run you will be run over by this world. Before I make a move it is really important to dig into few fundamental questions such as, why I didn’t make any move till now? what has been holding me back for so long? why am I hopeful that  things will be different this time around? okay then,lets try to find answer to these question on by one.

Q- Why I didn’t make any move till now?

Ans- The truth is that I tried to change things many times, many times I got off to a good start but sadly every time, I failed to capitalize on to that good start and as the result I never made any significant change. Then the question that arises now is, what is the reason behind this habit of mine? When I dig deep I can find only one answer, that is, I am too easy on myself, so in order to achieve what I have set to achieve I have to become ruthless, I have to develop an appetite for pain or in one word I have to become a masochist.

Q- What has been holding me back for so long?

Ans- To be honest there is only one thing that is holding me back from reaching the glory and that thing is nothing but me, I, myself. It might sound a little harsh but sadly this is the truth, The truth is that I am scared of hard work and I always try to find the reasons to avoid the hard work, in short I am a lazy man of the highest degree and if I have any desire to live a dignified life I must beat my  arch enemy, that is,laziness.

Q- Why am I hopeful this time?

 Ans- As my previous record suggests that I have broken my promise time and again so what makes me think that this time I will adhere to my promise, this is quiet a natural question to ask, and to be really honest I don’t have any answer to this question, but all I can say is that, I am hopeful,and as they say, hope is a good thing may be best of the things and good things never die so will not die my hope and the expectations that I have from myself.

Conclusion.

 To conclude I can say only one thing that, this will be a year when I am going to make more mistakes than I ever made because this time around I am going to try the most.

What after passing 10th class?

So you have passed your tenth board exams and now the time has finally come to make the decision which, I will not say is going to decide for the rest of your life but it will surely decide for upcoming five to six years of your life, it will decide whether you are going to enjoy your journey or just going to pray throughout your journey that some how you don’t meet with any accident and reach your destination safely.

Yes your are right it’s time to decide your stream or should I say whether you want become an engineer or a doctor or a chartered accountant, because at this point of time in any Indian students life they are aware of only these three options, they only know that to become an engineer one has to take up Science(PCB),to become a doctor one has to pursue Science(PCB), to become CA one has to take up Commerce and the one’s who are not good at studies takes up Arts subjects.What they don’t know is, that, this system is nothing but a stone aged million dollar trap.

Before I go any further I would like share one personal story which I believe will be very help full to you while making decision on your stream selection.

I was at my class 12th chemistry coaching class and in the middle of the class came a student to inquire about the new batch for class 11th although our teacher got little upset on getting disturbed in the middle of the class but he kept his cool and welcomed the kid and asked him about his marks in 10th std. He showed him his mark sheet then after skimming over his mark sheet he asked him why are you getting into science despite scoring so well in social sciences and not so well in maths and science, he then replied that you don’t worry Sir I will work very hard and I can handle it, after listening to his answer my teacher assigned him a fresh batch and the boy left.

After the boy left the class he(teacher) asked us what do you think about his decision to take up Science, most of us were of the view that the boy seemed very motivated and he might be able to get through it with the hard work he is ready to put in.

To this our chemistry teacher said something that got stuck in my mind, although it might not sound something extraordinary or something that we don’t know but sometimes most obvious things needs to be said in order to wake you up from your deep slumber, he said: If this boy is really going to put in the amount hard work and dedication into his studies as he has promised then he should apply that energy into social science instead of science, that way he will be more successful and happy in his life he further said it’s not about  just spending your energy, it’s about channeling your efforts and labors in right direction, that is, where your strength lies.

 At that moment only thing running through my mind was, why I didn’t hear these words before when I took up science despite being good at humanities.But nevertheless I altered my mistake and took up humanities for graduation.

The moral of the story is that don’t go for popular opinion blindly, measure your strengths and weaknesses before hurrying into your decision because if you fall for popular opinions you will suffer like hell for many upcoming years of your life, that I can tell you from my personal experience.

So now the question arises how do you decide which stream is best for you?  to get answer to that read the classifications given below carefully.

Science(PCM)

who should go for it ?

  • If you have liked maths and science throughout your school days and have scored quiet well.
  • If you have always been fascinated by modern-day technology and it intrigues you.
  • If you enjoyed studying your physics and chemistry books in ninth and tenth std. and topics like motion, gravitational force, chemical reactions, atoms and molecules etc left you with a felling that it’s not enough I want to know more about them.

who should not go for it ?

  • If you have just nearly passed your maths exams all your school life Concepts of Physics 1and your basic concepts in maths are not clear, then trust me your life will be miserable for next two years at least if you end up with science(PCM)
  • If your interest lies somewhere else but you are choosing science stream because your parents said engineers earns in millions and all your friends are also taking up science so you feel you will be left out.

commerce

who should to go for it ?

  • If corporate world seems grand and glamorous to you and you wish if some day you could be part of that life style.
  • If you have always been curious about share market and how Snsex and nifty works.
  • If you always wanted to know why India is still not a developed nation and what is five-year plan and many more such league of topics

who should not go for it ?

  • If you are going into commerce thinking that I will become CA because you heard from your family and friends that CA makes a lot of money.
  • If your motivation to take commerce comes from the fact that your friends told you that you have to study less in commerce in comparison to science.

Arts or humanities.

who should go for it ?

  • If you have always enjoyed knowing about History of India and world and there is huge appetite in you for more
  • If you like and follow the “dance of democracy” in India and want to know more as to how this kind political system came in to being in India and many other parts of the world.
  • If international relations and international ties gives you some kind thrill in your belly.

who should not go for it ?

  • If it’s just a part of your escape mechanism and you think that you don’t have to study at all and you will ace it with just one or two days of study.

conclusion

Select your stream because you like it and your strength lies there and not because your family and friends said so.

Your criteria for selecting your stream should only be your interest and any other factors such as how much money you will earn in future and what will society think of you if you don’t go for any particular popular opinion should not be your area of concern.

Always remember that if you feel that you are not enjoying Your choice of stream and feel stuck with it then you have at least six months of time to pull your self out of the prison, at this point most important thing is communication with your parents do share your problems with them before it gets too late and you end up with depression.